The cold hard truth..

I can’t pause my pregnancy to ride out the covid19 pandemic, I have begged, pleaded & prayed that this would all be over by now.. but with just 74 days to go before I welcome my daughter, I mourn the death of a dream.
The dream of having my loved ones by my side after my surgery, the dream of announcing her name to the world with a hospital door sign, the dream of having hospital newborn and family photos taken.
I mourn the dream of giving birth to at least one of my children with any kind of normalcy.
Now, instead of preparing with excitement I prepare hesitantly knowing that if she needs the nicu for any reason no one, not even her father & myself will be permitted to be with her at all which as many of you may remember would be vastly different than our sons 11 day nicu stay last year..
I’ll never get this time back.
I don’t get to redo my daughters birth.
I am bitter this virus has cheated me out of so much, I am afraid for my children, I am filled with guilt from the dread I feel having to leave my son and not seeing him until I return home and I feel guilty for dreading her arrival even in such uncertainty.
Make no mistake, I love my children and I know how incredibly blessed I am to have them especially after the journey we faced to get to them but my heart still breaks for what I wish could’ve been.. no mother should face this.
Today I choose thankful positivity, I may not have control over anything else but I will prepare for her with great faith instead of all consuming fear.
Xx -Tator

2020 advancements for an important update!

skeeter and I pride ourselves on Tatorthoughts and how far it’s come in two years of life. We thank you all for your continued support even through setbacks like major technical difficulties and practicality starting from scratch. I work very hard to bring you high quality content and skeeter does everything he can to keep your site experience a smooth one, with that being said, I have decided to expand my horizons and bring you more diverse content. Along with what we have always brought to you I may be adding more adult oriented product reviews if the opportunity presents itself. These reviews will be housed on their own pages and should never appear on the main feed in an effort to keep this site friendly for all visitors. all reviews will as always be kept as pg13 as possible. I look forward to the opportunity to share these products and services with you. Please stay tuned for more information and the most up to date relevant Tatorthoughts posts. Don’t forget you can subscribe to receive notifications also!


Cherished custom creations: The Review.

Cherished custom creations: custom headband and name reveal bodysuits review.

The bodysuit design is beautiful and very well done. I have no doubt these outfits will outlast her time in that size and hold up well in her shadow box.

The headband is PERFECTION!
The monogram stands out so boldly and beautifully on the extremely soft purple headband fabric and is fit for a girl of any age.
I’m blessed to say my daughter has a wonderful village of people around her that pour so much love into what they create because they play a huge role in making her arrival even more momentous for us.

Thank you so much cherished custom creations! It has been an absolute pleasure and I look forward to more in the future!

Is there a special little one in your life? Do you have something you’d like to have made?
Contact these lovely folks on their Facebook page here!:
You won’t be disappointed!

Carla’s babycakes product review

I had the pleasure of working with ms. Carla on a beautiful diaper cake for a baby event we held this month!

Her service was fast, efficient and very friendly.  She made sure what she created met our needs and did so in beautiful fashion. 

To my surprise the delivery even came with a beautiful note

Her diaper cakes are well made, thoughtful and packaged with great care. Very portable and absolutely gift-able!

The designs are simple and sleek. Each creation is well thought out and uniquely designed. 

I’m very proud to say that I’ve worked with such a wonderful lady and had a beautiful centerpiece made by her featured at my event. 

I absolutely recommend that anyone who needs anything custom made for a gift or shower centerpiece contact her. She will get you exactly what you need with kindness and efficiency every time. 

You can find her Etsy site here:

And her Facebook page here:

Omg crafts custom bow holder product review!

Before my daughter’s gender was ever even confirmed I reached out to beccah- owner of omg crafts for a custom bow holder creation, because my Overwhelming desire to bring a daughter earth-side manifested itself as a growing collection of bows that I needed a beautiful place to house. 

As with any omg craft production I was beyond satisfied. It was all I wanted and more. I was blown away!

She got the quality to match the beauty. 

The colors and accents were exactly what I wanted! 

You can tell time, pride and effort were put into this well thought out and executed bow holder. 

I LOVE that this can grow with our daughter. 

I love that even if not used as a bow organizer it has the potential to be used as a lovely accent piece for any females room – regardless of age. 

I can’t thank her enough for the amazing addition to our child’s room. 

Be sure to check out the omg crafts Instagram and Facebook pages to follow giveaway opportunities and to see your own custom crafting & decor dreams come to life!

!!Site maintenance advisory!! is currently undergoing site maintenance, with this being said the site may go down February 20th, 2020 And may take up to 7 days to return back online.
It may not go down at all or the duration for which it is down may be short This is hard to predict. However we do know that once this is resolved tatorthoughts will be back full force!

Thank you for your continued support, and understanding.
Tator & Skeeter-

Omg crafts custom shelf product review!

Omg crafts custom sign & design review:

Beccah is a close personal friend of mine, mom of two beautiful kids, holds down a full time job and runs her own craft & creativity business called omg crafts which can be found on both Facebook and instagram!

Now, what I had her do is something she hadn’t really done before so it’s completely custom but she’s so impeccable she’s open to pretty much anything!

I unlisted her help on creating a unique home decor Christmas present for Skeeter and she DID NOT DISAPPOINT!

I wanted something that celebrated our family name that was also timeless. She established just that by giving me a beautifully stained hand made wooden wall decor accent piece that also has a shelf with small key hooks underneath. 

It’s sturdy, extremely well crafted, neatly stained and HAND PAINTED. 

I have absolutely no doubt that this is one custom craft that will not only withstand the test of time but surpass it. 

Presenting this to my love as we celebrated Christmas morning gave me such a wonderful sense of contentment. 

He could see how much thought and effort was put into something special for our home both on my part and in hers. 

Omg crafts provides a personalized warm experience with every item. Every conversation.  Every transaction. 

Purchasing from her insures not only friendly service and quality products but also supports a family not unlike yours and fuels a mother’s creative dream. 

(And she has the cutest little helpers making her creations to boot!)

Foundations are formed in the most unexpected of places..

Y’all don’t understand.
I was an aunt before I was anything else. My entire being that became who I am today was formed on the foundation of someone looking up to me.
My nieces & nephews were my friends. They were my kids before I had my own kids. Anyone who truly knows me can tell you I breathe for these kids. Some I’ve been there for since before the day they were born, some came swooping into my life unexpectedly when I became a part of Corey’s life and some just found their way to me because they were supposed to for the better of everyone. I couldn’t imagine my life without the 12 of them. Nor would I ever want to. Seeing the way they all love my son, not only like the cousin he is but like a brother and seeing the way they light up with excitement over my daughter melts my heart like a blowtorch on chocolate.
Now, Of course I love that my children are well loved but it does my heart such good to see them pouring love into others like I poured it into them.
I am many many things, not all of them pleasant but I will always be a mother and an aunt before anything else.
I may never be perfect and I didn’t hang the moon but even on my worst of days I’m still who they look to. I couldn’t be more proud or more blessed with the children god has given me the opportunity to love and influence for such a long time, in such a big way. This is proof that biology, timing and circumstance mean nothing. Love is greater than anything.

that’s just my thoughts on the subject,

xx Tator

Motherhood: The hardest blessing.

I love my children. I love my family.

there’s so much more there than what people see and I’m sure most (if not all) mothers can attest to the fact that motherhood is the most stressful, beautiful, blissful, thankless, sleepless and for a lot of us the most isolating blessing ever.

Would any of us change it? Probably not.
That however doesn’t discredit the fact that being a wife, a partner, a primary caregiver and Still remain an individual Is overwhelming.

Being the “glue” For an entire household isn’t for the faint of heart. Caring for the needs children, the daily demands of a household, providing love and nurture to those you love most and always putting yourself last.
There just simply isn’t enough hours in the day and sometimes that leaves you feeling defeated instead of accomplished.
Sometimes I celebrate just being able to get everyone through the hard days alive because that’s an accomplishment.
this intensifies when you work, don’t have a support system, suffer the isolation of a stay at home mom or have a disability that throws extra hurdles in your way.
No one ever wants to discuss the “mom guilt” we all feel at some point. “Are we doing enough?” Are “we doing this right?” “Will my kids grow up with the right values?” “Did I love my family enough today?”

Motherhood is hard, raw, brutal at times but we all want one common thing, we want what’s best for our families and we all hope that it’s us.

moral of the story,

there’s millions of parents all over the world, different cultures and a billion ways to do the same things but there’s no way to be a perfect parent, wife or person. Your family doesn’t want or NEED perfect they need you. So give them that and try your best to make it the best version of yourself possible. Do what fits your family best. You’re doing a great job.